Should i get a divorce?

IDK.. what is hard about this is it may just be a rough patch and a few years down the road things may change and you two will be happy in love again- you never know. Have you tried TALKING to her- not fightin, arguin or yelling but really openin up and telling her how you feel. If the house is messy and she is really clingy and seems bicthy and unhappy- she may be depressed... I was and my husband left me cuz i was in a deep depression and he got tired of it. he left me and it has been a year &1/2 and a day hasn't gone by that he hasn't told me how much he regrets it and asks me to come back... but i was in the same shoes as your wife.. no job, no money, had been with my husband since highschool and didnt know how to be independant and do it on my own... when my husband kicked me out i had to do everything for me and our 2 kids on my own.. he screwed me over too bad and i still have love for him and i do want us to be a family but i just cant take him back! he did some really awful things thou.. not just to me but to our kids- that is a different story than this thou but the point i am trying to make is you may regret it and cant undo it.. also you may see if you talk to her about this and you two get counsiling and she learns that your time alone and wiht your friends is important maybe you two can find the love again... but you will need help- get counsiling and maybe get her some private cousiling if she is feeling depressed.. most housewives pride themselves on a clean neat house since it is their "job" i know b4 the depressionn i did.. that was a major tell in my depression is i totally lost it when it came to the house... i wish you the best! also if you do leave her 1) give it all you got and be sure you can say i tried my best to make it work cuz there will come a day your kids asks why and 2) it won't be the end of the world, it won't screw up your kid, and you can't be friends! i kno now it seems like that would be possible but mark my words- IT ISN'T!! you need to know that since you have a kid- if you split you may fight more than when you were together. also her family won't be there for you anymore- even if in the beginning they say they will. there will come a point that it bothers her and she tells them to stop. hope something in here helps!